Confidence signifies a very palpable meaning with faith or self-belief. When a person is not insecure about his personality ethics or character ethics, he is able to comprehend his credence and loses all his solicitude and angst. As a result of which, confidence comes into existence and the person is able to do away with his sense of abashment and unabated anxieties.

Well, confidence has always been a topic of speculation and the most frequently asked question is “how to develop it”? According to “Mike Rogers”, a writer, confidence doesn’t exist. Yes, it may sound weird but it’s true. The word has always been misunderstood by most of us. We confound it with faith, belief, reliance, self-dependence etc. But, we fail to find a perfect definition for it.

So, for its development, we should forget about it. Yes this may too sound astounding, but this can be a very crucial step towards our development. Some of the basic aspects that we can grasp properly are:

· Be proactive: An initiator always gets accolades for being the first one. A proactive person never uses words or phrases like “if, but, although, however, I wish, etc.”, He rather says “I can be” like I can be more loving, I can be more supportive, I can be more faithful etc. That powerful urge to be the one and not someone should always be there. So, start being proactive from this very moment, work on everything that’s bringing you down. Initiate towards your development. If you think there’s a problem, then that very thought is a problem. Make a list of all your problems and worries and write possible and fruitful solutions for them.

· Self-reliance: I’m a unique being with unique talent. The reliance of our strengths and effective nature can alone bring down all mental agony and stress together. It should be “I love myself” and not “I just love myself”. The 1^st sentence projects our freedom to have compassion for ourselves but the 2^nd one displays our arrogance that “I just love myself and not anyone else”. By having faith and credence in us, we will be able to overcome that fear of being seen by everyone. That insecurity of ours which depends upon others’ statements makes us lose “confidence” in ourselves.

· Shift your paradigm: Cultivate a different approach for doing something usual. If someone ever admonishes you for something you’ve done, say with a positive approach that “you’ve noticed where I was going wrong, thankyou so much for notcing me. I really didn’t know I’m so important in your life”. After this approach, you’ll feel delighted that you’ve maintained your self esteem and other person’s reverence as well. Perhaps, that very person will think twice before saying anything to you from next time.

· Watch your words: This one really gets unnoticed by most of us, especially in present time and zone. But, by watching and realising what we say, we can indeed do a lot to save ourselves from trouble. Language is the first and foremost source of communication. When we realise that we are using correct words, we develop huge self belief in us, since we know we’re not doing anything wrong ethically. Don’t you have some memories of your days when you might have said something wrong to someone. Always ask yourslef, why was it so? The answer is because you were not watching your words. Educe everyday about your speech, your words, your language. It changes the whole scenario.

“Go with the flow but never commit a flaw”

· Your company: “a man is known by the company he keeps”. This is true for all of us. And the other thing that is true is “a rotten apple makes other apples also rotten”. Believe it or not, but the kind of company you keep, speaks a lot more about you even more than yourself. Great scholars have said over and time again that a person should always be kind enough to search for someone that is better than him. Remember that water inside a crackpot can only be saved if the hole is rectified within time. So, tend to keep those who are more knowledgeable and have positive effect on you all the time to keep you going. Remember that “positivity” is a great source to achieve this attribute especially, so always think “I’m with this person because I want to learn and I will become better with time” and not “he’s better than me, I feel scared and ashamed in his company”. Have a constructive and positive attitude.

· Find your inspiration: read about great people, hardworking people and your role models. Your role model may be your parents, your teachers or your favorite persons around you. Once you start following the footprints of someone, you actually start acquiring that person’s attributes and qualites. So, always make sure that you’re following the right steps and not the wrong ones. Remember”

“ we can only reach our goals if we take our feet forward and not backward”.